So…I’m taking Human Sexuality and I’ve gotten A’s on both tests so far. However, a bunch of people failed. 15% of the class got D’s and F’s. The grand majority got C’s, some people got B’s and just 4 people got A’s. Which got me thinking, the only reason I know so much about sex is because of BDSM. So much of BDSM is research to make sure you know what you’re doing. I mean, you don’t just buy the first paddle you see, right? You research and learn the different types of material, weights, sensations…you learn about the nerves and the danger zones you should avoid. I’ve read so many pages about how to perfectly torture your sub…I never realized how much BDSM has taught me.
And what’s more…so many of my classmates are so completely closed minded. Being on Fetlife has taught me to be, not just tolerant, but accepting of others kinks. I mean, so many of them define sex as the missionary position…but sex is so much more than that.
We were read a scenario that went something like this:
Sara meets a guy at a party and they talk for 2 hours and decide to go back to his place. They use a condom and decide to remain friends afterward, though neither wants a relationship.
Every single person said it was wrong. That 2 hours just isn’t enough to decide if you want to sleep with someone. They even went so far as to say that Sara was a slut…though nobody thought the guy did anything wrong.
I could not believe that after everything we’ve talked about in class they’d still say things like that. Everyone is so incredibly closed minded…they have such a narrow view of sex. It’s exasperating.